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An Interview with Stephanie Nilva – Cyber Stalking Among the Youth

Stephanie Nilva is an attorney and the Executive Director of Day One, an organization that partners with youth to end dating abuse and domestic violence through community education, supportive services, legal advocacy and leadership development. 

PureVPN: Do you think Cyber Stalking laws are mature enough to a cover majority of these cases? Do you think the legislation and the law enforcement agencies can keep up with the fast-paced Cyber Ecosystem and Advancements?

Given the rapid rate of technological advancement, legislation can barely keep up. Most laws take several months or even a year or two to pass, whereas we see technology evolving much more quickly. New tools that can be used to harass and stalk people online are emerging every few weeks.

Most existing laws that protect against abusive tactics were passed at a time when no one could conceive of the arsenal that would be available to threaten or harm someone through various forms of technology. Day One offers support to young people experiencing abuse online by advocating with law enforcement and the court system in areas that are still unfamiliar to authorities. Police struggle to respond to allegations of online threats, and courts are accustomed to issuing “stay-away” orders that would do little in an online context.

Day One also supports legislation that would offer accountability for abusive online behavior while also being mindful of the age-appropriate behaviors that young people engage in. It would be counterproductive to criminalize the conduct of a teen who shares an intimate photograph online that is later publicized by someone with harmful intent.

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Day One excited to expand services they provide to meet needs of children under the age of 11

Armed with the disconcerting knowledge that 5 million children witness domestic violence in this country each year and 1 in 3 teenagers in NYC reports experiencing abuse in a romantic relationship, Day One has recently procured a grant to develop an innovative new program with elementary aged students and the adults in their lives.

Through key violence prevention education and social-emotional activities, students will build essential communication and reflection skills in order to ensure they grow into successful adolescents, teenagers and young adults prepared to help build a safer, more just and equitable world. Educators, school staff and caregivers will also have access to tools and resources in order to support students’ healthy relationship and leadership abilities. 

 

        

Making Sense Of Restorative Justice, Community Response, And The PWR BTTM Fallout

Shifting the focus of community work toward actively defining and encouraging explicit consent, and away from post-incident accountability, is a good place to start. That’s the suggestion of Andrew Sta. Ana, the director of legal services at Day One, which works with youth — offering prevention-based workshops to high schools, community organizations, and professionals who work with youth — to prevent and end intimate partner violence and sexual assault.

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Advice On What To Do When You Think Your Friend Is In An Abusive Relationship

Stephanie Nilva, Day One's Executive Director, was quoted in this weekly advice column called Love, Lucy that is in the New School Free Press.

“Isolation is a form of abuse,” says Nilva. “It is an abusive tactic to try to reduce a partner’s support on other people in their lives, whether that’s family or friends or community groups, and without support, the less likely it is that they will try to become more safe.”

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UNDOCUMENTED, ABUSED, AND SILENCED

Victims of domestic violence are suffering in new ways under Trump’s immigration policies.

“An abusive partner can create a narrative for a survivor: ‘No one will believe you, no one cares about you, your concerns aren’t real, you deserve what’s happening to you,’” said Andrew Sta. Ana, director of legal services at Day One NY, a nonprofit organization that works to educate young people about domestic violence and provides supportive services. These tactics are compounded for undocumented or transgender survivors of domestic violence, whose abusers can — and often do — use their marginalized identities against them. “There are a lot of stereotypes about transgender folks being deceitful, or about undocumented folks pulling one over on the rest of the system, and that’s dangerous,” Sta. Ana said. “When these powerful stereotypes are allowed to creep in, they automatically challenge the credibility of the victim, and that discourages people from seeking protection.”

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2016 Benefit To End Dating Violence Among Youth

On Tuesday, September 27th, Day One commemorated the achievements of our organization and the amazing young people who work with us in the effort to end intimate partner violence. 

At our gala we affirmed the strength and dedication of the survivors, advocates and supporters we are proud to call allies. We honored BNY Mellon and Verizon for their advocacy and support. We had special remarks by our Honorary Benefit Chair Tamron Hall, of NBC News' 'Today' & MSNBC, and Melissa Mark-Viverito, Speaker of the New York City Council. In our Voices Against Violence, young survivors, a former intern, the Commissioner of the Mayor’s office to combat Domestic Violence, community supporters and Day One’s Board member and a Peer Leader spoke about the importance of Day One in their own lives and communities.

 

2016 Voices Against Violence

What would you #TellYourself

Two in three teens who are in an abusive relationship don't tell anyone.

Alienation and shame keep many teens from coming forward about intimate partner violence. For Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month in February, we want to break the silence and encourage conversations around dating abuse. Join us as we ask one question:

What advice would you #TellYourself when you were younger about dating, relationships or life?

We are creating a dialogue that connects individuals of all ages through their shared experiences as teens, encourages more open discussions around healthy and unhealthy relationships and shows those who may be struggling that they are not alone.

Be a part of the campaign and help us promote information about the campaign today on your social media. 

At the end of the month, we’ll award the most “liked” post with a special prize!

Here are some sample posts so you can share the campaign today: 

During February, join @DayOneNY's campaign and post a picture from your past with advice you would #TellYourself when you were younger about dating, relationships or life at that age. Use the hashtag #TellYourself and tag us @dayoneny and we may feature your post on our social media during our #TellYourselfTuesdays.

Join @DayOneNY & post a foto from ur past during #TDVAM w/ advice us wd #TellYourSelf when u were young about dating.

Share this campaign today and help break the silence and encourage conversations around dating abuse!

Day One is now on Instagram! Find us at @dayoneny.