Dating Abuse

Dating abuse is a type of domestic violence characterized by a pattern of controlling and sometimes violent behavior in casual or serious dating relationships. It affects people regardless of race, class, gender, or sexual orientation. Even a one-time incident of dating violence is NOT ok. In abusive relationships, there is a pattern of controlling and/or violent behavior: the abuse happens again and again, and it gets worse over time. 


TYPES OF ABUSE

 

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Verbal Abuse

  • Calling someone names, insulting them and putting them down
  • Telling someone what to wear, what to do
  • Calling, texting or emailing constantly
  • Always demanding to know who you’re with and where you are
  • Threatening to hurt you

 


Verbal abuse and emotional abuse often lead to physical violence. Just because a relationship is not physically violent does not mean that it is healthy. 


Emotional Abuse

  • Going through your things behind your back
  • Acting extremely jealous
  • Not letting you hang out with friends and family
  • Blaming you for everything
  • Accusing you of cheating

Physical Abuse

  • Shaking, grabbing
  • Pulling hair
  • Slapping, punching, kicking
  • Using objects to hurt you
  • Choking, strangling
  • Sexual Abuse
  • Touching or kissing you when you don’t want to
  • Pressuring or forcing you to have sex or do other sexual things
  • Preventing you from using birth control

Financial Abuse

  • Forbidding you to work 
  • Refusing to work or contribute
  • Sabotaging work or employment opportunities 
  • Controlling how all of the money is spent 
  • Not allowing you access to bank accounts 
  • Not including you in investment or banking decisions
  • Forcing you to write bad checks or file fraudulent tax returns
  • Running up large amounts of debt on joint accounts, taking bad credit loans
  • Withholding funds to obtain basic needs such as food and medicine
  • Hiding assets
  • Stealing your identity, property or inheritance

Technological Abuse

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  • Tells you who you can or can’t be friends with on Facebook and other sites
  • Sends you negative, insulting or threatening emails, Facebook messages, tweets, DMs or other messages online
  • Uses sites like Facebook, Twitter, foursquare and others to keep constant tabs on you
  • Puts you down in their status updates
  • Sends you unwanted, explicit pictures and/or demands you send some in return
  • Pressures you to send explicit video or sexts
  • Steals or insists on being given your passwords
  • Constantly texts you and makes you feel like you can’t be separated from your phone for fear that you will be punished
  • Looks through your phone frequently, checks up on your pictures, texts and outgoing calls
  • Tags you unkindly in pictures on Instagram, Tumblr, etc
  • Uses any kind of technology (such as spyware or GPS in a car or on a phone) to monitor you