Executive Director Stephanie Nilva was quoted on an article that highlighted a recent study by Start Strong, a national initiatives that promotes healthy relationships, which found that youth as early as seventh grade have experienced physical or emotional in their romantic relationships.
Stephanie said that "the data didn't surprise her at all. While she couldn't point to any other specific research on seventh-graders, she said studies of dating violence among teens typically find that 10-40% have experienced it. And the 10% number comes from a study that only looked at violence in the past
six months one year, meaning the real prevalence may be higher. So 15% didn't strike her as out of the ordinary, even in kids so young."
Read the study here.
Read the full article, "Even Seventh-Graders Are Hitting Their Girlfriends (And Boyfriends)" on Buzzfeed's SHIFT.
Categories: Day One in the Media
In the Headlines
Centers for Disease Control features interview with Day One Executive Director. The March edition of the CDC's Public Health Law News features an interview with Day One's executive director, Stephanie Nilva, discussing her path to public health law and the impact of her work with youth ending dating violence.
Women senators lead in reauthorization of Violence Against Women Act (VAWA). Senate Democrats battled conservative Republicans who say they don't want to expand an 18-year-old federal law that created a national strategy to prevent domestic violence against women. Opponents claim it would broaden American Indian tribal rights and has too many protections for gay and illegal immigrant victims of violence. Many of the chamber's female members pushed back, lining up to speak on the Senate floor in favor of the reauthorization. An advocate argues that VAWA should be reauthorized primarily because it is working. The U.S. News and World report hosts an online debate on the issue here. A U.S. Senator says the work to combat domestic violence is "not done." A lawyer dismisses claims that VAWA is too narrowly focused on women's victimization.
Advocate links teen pregnancy with dating, sexual abuse. Enid, Oklahoma YWCA Executive Director Melissa Blanton said the "teen pregnancy rate is directly affected by a number of other issues, including rape, physical and sexual abuse, emotional abuse and low self-esteem." County-level data showing a correlation between teen pregnancy and past abuse or rape was not available, but national data indicates a majority of America's teen mothers have suffered physical, sexual and/or emotional abuse.
An author shares dating violence prevention tips with parents. "Be a good role model. Teach your teens how to behave when dating by being respectful, egalitarian, and loving in your own relationships. Stay vigilant. Teen dating violence is overwhelmingly connected to other kinds of attacks, even if you live in a 'good neighborhood.' Don't forget about online violence. Assist your teens in making informed choices about privacy settings and with things like de-tagging their names from photos. Think like a teen. Teens often feel invincible and eager to explore the adult world. Be ready to help. Show concern and listen when your teens want to talk about violence, dating, and anything else."
Local New Jersey resident presents dating abuse program to community youth. Linden, NJ resident Lynn Kelly presented "Teen Dating Abuse 101" to local high school students, a program she developed to make teenagers aware of the warning signs of an abusive relationship and offer advice on what to do if they find themselves involved in one. Rutgers University featured dating violence in speaker series.
Our Community Educator Claudia Martinez will be one of the featured panelists at "Our Safety, Our Communities," a Brooklyn Latina/Latino Community Forum On Domestic Violence and Healthy Relationships.
Saturday, April 28th, 2012
9am – 4pm
By YVN Member Jean Sung
I embrace silence. How so? Imagine this. Standing as an educator in front of a classroom, I ask a question, take a deep breath, and am energized. My students are taking a moment to really think. Asking questions often leads to silence. That silence signals thought at work, and few moments are more fulfilling than that for an educator.
|I had plenty of reasons to hide my abusive relationship.|
On the other hand, as a survivor of an abusive relationship, I also recognize that silence can hurt. When victims and survivors of dating violence are silenced, they are stripped of their power to do something about the abuse. Moreover, I'm often troubled when people view this silence as a sign of weakness. Why do they remain silent? There are infinite reasons young people who experience abuse in their relationships don't disclose it.
Executive Director Stephanie Nilva was interviewed by CDC Public Health News as the featured public health professional of the month.
When asked what led her to the work she's doing now, Stephanie said: "Once I was in law school, I took advantage of being in New York City and interned at several nonprofit organizations during the academic year and the summers. I volunteered at the ACLU, NOW Legal Defense Fund (now Legal Momentum), and was awarded a spot in my school's legal services clinic. I got exposed to several different areas of law, and during my third year I partnered with Legal Services for New York (LSNY) to apply and was granted a fellowship conducting domestic violence work. The LSNY office was responsible for specific neighborhoods in Brooklyn, and the project was to assist victims in the Orthodox Jewish community. Looking back from my current position, I now see the destructive theme of isolation that almost all survivors of relationship abuse experience, whether it stems from boundaries of a religious community or age, language, geography, disability, immigration status and more. There are so many hurdles for survivors to overcome in seeking help to end a violent partnership, and I find the work reducing those hurdles to be intensely rewarding."
Read the rest of the interview, "This Month's Feature: Profiles in Public Health Law Interview with Stephanie Nilva" on CDC.gov.
Categories: Day One in the Media
By Program Director Margarita Guzman and Program & Communications Associate Gayle Gatchalian
This is not about Rihanna. This sort of about Chris Brown. Actually, this is really about Ronald Fenty, Rihanna's father. Mr. Fenty said he thought Chris was a "nice guy" and that everyone makes "mistakes." He even admitted to making a few "mistakes" himself in the past. If you have been following this story since 2009, you might recall Rihanna telling ABC News that her parents had an abusive relationship and that her father was the perpetrator. Yeah, I guess you could call what both Mr. Fenty and Chris Brown did to their partners "mistakes." You can say, "boys will be boys" or "maybe she did something to deserve it." But when you do, you should be aware of your own role in perpetuating violence.
When intimate partner violence is perpetrated against a famous person, and what's more, perpetrated by another famous person, the situation gets blown up under the public's microscope. People pore over every detail to try to explain what, how and why it happened. Chris Brown's victimization of Rihanna has been so public that it's like looking at a blown-up photo -- you can begin to see all the tiny pixels that eventually come together to create the full picture. Mr. Fenty is one of the pixels that ultimately form this particular photo of domestic violence.
Ask yourself if that's the image you want to be a part of creating. Ask yourself what else you could be saying that would add up to a very different picture. Imagine being part of a picture where nobody looks the other way and pretends domestic violence didn't happen. Imagine yourself in a picture where domestic violence doesn't even happen at all. Now that's an image worth taking.
In the Headlines
Day One Executive Director says parents can use attention on Rihanna-Chris Brown to talk about dating abuse with their children. Stephanie Nilva, executive director of Day One, a New York organization solely devoted to teen violence, says the celebrity couple's high profile domestic relationship "is an opportunity for parents to open a dialogue about abusive relationships before or as their children are dating and make sure teenagers understand the importance of safe and respectful partnerships." Other experts worry about the message the ex-couple's professional collaboration is sending to their fans.
Oregon policy for teen dating violence education in schools awaits governor's signature. House Bill 4077 requires school boards to develop programs to educate students about dating violence and authorizes the Oregon Department of Justice and the Oregon Department of Human Services to allocate funding to help combat the problem.
Study finds that African-American youth are most affected by dating violence. According to the Center for Disease Control's Youth Behavior Risk Surveillance Study, one out of 11 high school students in the United States have experienced some form of physical violence from a boyfriend or girlfriend, with African-American youth experiencing this abuse at a higher rate. Black high-school girls are 80 percent more likely than white girls to be hit, slapped or hurt on purpose by their boyfriends.
A high school students debunks myths about dating abuse. "Unfortunately, a lot of myths surround teen dating violence, and these misconceptions hide the warning signs from both victims and their loved ones: Myth: It cannot happen to me. Fact: More than one in ten teens experience physical violence. So yes, it could be you. Myth: Jealousy and possessiveness are signs of true love; they are completely normal .Fact: No, these behaviors are not normal. In fact, these are early warnings signs of abuse."
Focus on National Teen Dating Violence Awareness and Prevention Month prompts action across the country. The efforts of a Massachusetts-based domestic abuse organization to fight dating abuse were highlighted. A Florida women's group promoted their program for safe teen relationships. A California organization partnered with local high school students to educate their peers and raise awareness of dating abuse. A Wyoming military base held an event focusing on preventing dating violence. An Ohio sheriff spoke to high school students about what they can do if they are in an abusive relationship. A Michigan youth group held a 'community night' to call attention to dating abuse. California county leaders held a forum on dating abuse, including current research, youth perspectives and a discussion of possible solutions. Staff from the New Mexico Attorney General's office spoke with teens about dating violence prevention. A Texas shelter highlights their services for dating abuse survivors. A Nebraska city proclaims February as Teen Dating Violence Awareness and Prevention Month. An Alaska military base highlights dating abuse and the role of family and the community in prevention. Two New Jersey organizations developed a program to organize teens to become leaders against abuse. A Maryland county's dating violence summit drew hundreds of teens and parents. A Minnesota newspaper features various local and regional initiatives aimed to prevent dating abuse. A Colorado organization, together with local mayor, hold dating violence awareness rally. California assembly member proposes a resolutiondeclaring February as Teen Dating Violence Awareness and Prevention Month.