Helping young people navigate the subtle abusive tactics of consent and coercion can be complex. This week, we're discussing sexting and when it exceeds consent.
At Day One, we recognize that young people use technology like smart phones, social media and computers to find information, connect with others and form community. The connections that young people make with others through text, instant message, and online postings are often engaging, genuine and, of course, intimate.
Some find value and connection in sharing intimate messages and pictures, commonly called Sexting.
Helping young people navigate the subtle abusive tactics of consent and coercion can be complex. Here's one story about how coercion can play out with tips for you on how to respond.
Claudia and Dennis met when they were both 16 and started to date after 4 months. Later in the year, while Dennis' parents were going through a difficult divorce, he became jealous and possessive of Claudia, wanting to know where she was and who she was with at all times. When Claudia tried to talk about Dennis' behavior with him, he would say he was in a bad place and that her talking negatively about their relationship would make him more depressed. One night, after an argumentabout Claudia doing homework at a classmate's house, Dennis told her that he would kill himself if he ever heard she was at another boy's house again. He said he was just too depressed and had too much going on to have to worry about her, too.
Day One is thrilled so many of our supporters could join us on October 3rd at Teens & Tech: Day One's Benefit to End Dating Violence Among Youth to honor Anne Glauber & Finn Partners and Tradeweb Markets LLC. John D. Olson, Managing Director-Investments at Merrill Lynch was also recognized for his service as Vice Chair & Treasurer of Day One's Board of Directors.
We presented two Youth Leadership Awards during the evening, and guests heard both young people share powerful stories of survival. Jenny spoke of the life-changing services she received from Day One's attorney and social worker. Emily read a powerful poem she wrote about her abuse and shared her experience having a judge mistakenly tell her she was ineligible to receive a Family Court protective order. Their stories moved our guests and introduced an impactful message about Day One's work.
Read more to check out photos from the event.
In the Headlines
Dating abuse programs target younger students. While most dating abuse education programs are provided for high school and college students, a recent study found that need for these programs emerge as early as middle school: 15% of surveyed seventh-graders reported experiencing physical abuse in their relationships. Organizations like Start Strong Idaho and Men Can Stop Rape have programs aimed at educating youth early to prevent abuse in their relationships.
New York Governor signs cyberbullying protection legislation into law. A new law in New York State will help protect students from cyberbullying as well as other forms of harassment, bullying, and discrimination. Schools are now required to take immediate action when students experience cyberbullying or other forms of harassment. The legislation also establishes improved training to help teachers and administrators better prevent and respond to bullying and other harmful acts.
Study finds US high schools ill-equipped to prevent or address dating violence among their students. Researchers from Indiana surveyed 550 high school counselors about their training and ability to deal with teen dating violence. Over 81 percent of the respondents said their school had no protocol for responding to dating violence. Ninety percent said there had been no related staff training in the previous two years, and more than 75 percent said their school had no committee that dealt with health and safety issues including dating abuse or healthy relationships. Yet the majority of counselors (61 percent) said they had had occasion to advise a victim of dating violence in the previous two years.
A Massachusetts city counselor says preventing domestic violence must be a community focus and priority. "What is clear to me is that the work to end intimate partner violence, build healthy relationships and foster peace cannot be achieved without a true community-wide effort. Our humanity and decency, and not headlines or tragedy, should be the only impetus we need to end violence."
Arizona organization to hold local celebrity-studded fundraiser. Kaity's Way, a dating violence education organization, was started by Bobbi and Ric Sudberry in memory of their daughter who was murdered by an abusive boyfriend. Their upcoming fundraiser, patterned after the hit show 'Dancing with the Stars,' will feature local television and sports celebrities who will compete to raise funds to support the organization's education workshops.
By Ian Harris, Staff Attorney
There is a lot of confusion and misinformation about the Patient Protection and Affordable Care Act (PPACA or "Obamacare"). One piece of information that has been routinely absent from the news about Obamacare is the effect of the law on health options available for survivors of domestic violence. Below are some of the sections that have the potential to affect the lives of domestic violence survivors:
1) As of August 1, 2012, the Patient Protection and Affordable Care Act will require that all insurance plans cover screening and counseling for domestic abuse. This provision is found under preventive services for women's health. The section of preventive services also expands the list of preventive services that must be covered without "cost sharing*". Requiring preventive services without cost sharing takes away the ability of insurers to continue discriminatory practices against women that often made women pay substantially more for preventive services such as "Well-woman visits, Gestational diabetes screening, HPV DNA testing, Sexually transmitted infection counseling, HIV screening and counseling, FDA-approved contraception methods and contraceptive counseling, Breastfeeding support, supplies and counseling, and Domestic violence screening and counseling." This means that consumers pay less for these services because insurance companies must pay for these services at a higher rate.
2) In addition to the money saving options mentioned above, the new law also put a ban on pre-existing condition exclusions**. Previously, eight states and the District of Columbia allowed insurance companies to reject a woman's application for insurance because she had prior experience as a victim of domestic violence. The ban on pre-existing conditions exclusions makes it so that insurance companies can no longer continue this unfair and discriminatory practice.
The new healthcare law, recently upheld by the Supreme Court, has given the anti-violence community additional tools to help survivors of abuse. It's a small step, but every step counts.
Cost Sharing - when the patient/insured is required to pay some portion of covered expenses. Source: Reference.MD
Pre-exisiting conditions exclusions - a type of rule in insurance policies where the insurer can deny covering someone's health insurance claim because they had a condition or illness that make them more likely to be sick and thus be more likely to use their health insurance.