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Examining Consent and Coercion
Helping young people navigate the subtle abusive tactics of consent and coercion can be complex. Here's one story about how coercion can play out with tips for you on how to respond.
Claudia and Dennis met when they were both 16 and started to date after 4 months. Later in the year, while Dennis' parents were going through a difficult divorce, he became jealous and possessive of Claudia, wanting to know where she was and who she was with at all times. When Claudia tried to talk about Dennis' behavior with him, he would say he was in a bad place and that her talking negatively about their relationship would make him more depressed. One night, after an argument about Claudia doing homework at a classmate's house, Dennis told her that he would kill himself if he ever heard she was at another boy's house again. He said he was just too depressed and had too much going on to have to worry about her, too.
Coercion means pressuring someone to do something the person doesn't want to through force or threats. People can be coerced into many things in an unhealthy or abusive relationship, including sex, criminal behavior, financially supporting someone, or staying in a relationship out of fear that someone will hurt themselves or another person.
Challenge: How can Claudia know if Dennis is suicidal, or if he's just coercing her to do what he wants using abusive strategies? Is Dennis just trying to maintain control over Claudia through threats of suicide?
What are some things for Claudia to consider when she is thinking about what to do?
What are some things for adults who know Claudia and Dennis to consider?
If you are under 24 years old and you believe that someone is coercing you into behavior you are uncomfortable with, call Day One at 1-800-214-4150 for a free consultation.
Day One is the only organization in New York City solely devoted to the issue of teen dating violence. Working alongside youth, Day One educates, organizes and advocates on behalf of young people at risk of or experiencing intimate partner violence.
Day One focuses on young people because one in three teens experiences abuse in a dating relationship according to the United States Department of Justice. The most recent New York City Teen Health Risk Survey found that one in ten teenagers had experienced physical or sexual assault in a dating relationship within the previous year.
In each of our programs, Day One looks forward to new beginnings for youth. We engage young people in identifying methods of keeping themselves and their peers safe, and together envision a future without fear of abuse. Community involvement is critical to our ability to help young people. For more information on how you can get involved, check out the Get Involved section of our website, or please contact us to volunteer or make a contribution to support our services.